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Saturday, January 2, 2010

the short list

My camera refuses to cooperate, but I cannot let 2010 get started without some something to say about it. I pride myself on being a really optimistic person, so a new year is something to be excited about. So many possibilities and such a great time to evaluate where one is going in the next 363 days. Love it!

Obviously the most exciting possibility of the year is V-man coming home. When, you ask? I simply don't know. Not a clue. Seriously. No idea. THAT is frustrating, but that's how it rolls in adoption land. You jump in with both feet and arms flailing only to realize that most of the time those appendages are only useful for treading the waiting waters. We talk about this kiddo a LOT. We pray for him daily. I find myself wanting to set a 5th place at our dinner table and looking for him in the back seat. However, I am truly at peace that he will be here the very moment God has ordained it--long before we ever fell for him last February.

A new year is also a license to make a list. I really, really like lists. The false sense of organization a list provides is just intoxicating. However, I don't think 2010 is a list year. I have a few things that I'd like to get done, but with travel to India such a moving target, those things--like running another half marathon in April--are tentative. So I find myself with really just two items to be measured by December.

1. Make certain that the 3 fellas in my home right now know that I adore them. I feel an urgency to do my best to connect with each one in some way every day.
  • I have a most fantastic husband who works really, really hard and who dreams extraordinary dreams. May he know every day that I'm the proud captain of his cheerleading squad.
  • My 6 year old is scary smart but he's super sensitive, too. He needs to know I'm simply nuts about him. He'll get all the attention he'll ever want from getting the right answer, but he won't know the joy he brings to my life unless I'm diligent about showing him.

  • And then our funny, funny Deezy. He's so easy that auto-pilot is a daily temptation with him. He's in this beautiful bubble right now, but the hard questions will come sooner than I'm ready for. I have to deposit enough in his bank now to have a voice in his heart later.


2. Thanks to the dreamer hubby of mine, this is the year for some honest surrender. I don't know what that will mean, but that's okay. I'm in. All in.

Welcome 2010! So glad you're here!

13 comments:

Naomi said...

Don't know why really, Merica, but this post really about made me cry.

Beautiful.

Lynda said...

I love the comment about the false sense of organization a list brings and its intoxication. I so am that statement!
Your writing is GREAT. It's a fun read - - and also motivating.

Rachel said...

I loved it too. I could hear you saying the words in my head. I can always see it in your eyes how much you love your boys.

Kari said...

I adore looking at the darlings in your heart:) i love your post- you know I'll be cheering you on as you train for your 1/2. I really hope we can be a part of your travel group reunion- we got a special invite (OK- I begged:) lol
Love ya lots

Kelly said...

As always...you make me laugh...so glad to call you friend....Happy New Year... I just know V will be home soon!

A Stafford said...

We were talking about summer plans this week, and my son wants to go to your house to see your boys and Vee. I told him Vee is still at Ashraya and he was very disappointed.

In our case, we thought we had a pretty solid timeline, and ended up getting to pick up Anju a good 4 or 5 months earlier than we thought- so plans went out the window.

God's timing is definitely the best- wishing you all a wonderful 2010.

Tracy said...

That's a motivated list--- needs to be copyrighted! Love this post! It's my favorite new year challenge!!

Brooke said...

Are we really sisters separated at birth? So thankful that I was able to meet you and your family through your blog AND meet your waiting son in India. Thankful for the Stums in 2010!

Anonymous said...

awesome. the end. ok, it's not the end...i was looking thru my ethiopia pics and totally forgot to tell you that i did IN FACT find another fake gimp arm guy in december...just sayin. let's chat soon...maybe about us doing a mission trip to ethiopia in october with the college group or something?? maybe not...just throwing it out there...we're gonna start planning an orphan awareness trip there this year...and every year...maybe twice a year. and thought you should know that my daughter is currently singing and dusting around the house. that's right. chores baby! ok well, she did it on her own accord...i'm not that awesome. lol! love you guys!

Sarah said...

Hi Merica. Thanks for commenting on my blog! I actually have been following yours for a while now too. I know what you mean - My hubby is an expensive cook too, but I hated to say that directly on my blog. I didn't want him to think I was making fun of him. :)

Anonymous said...

How Sweet. We too hope Vee comes home soon! Like Amy, Manu came home about 2 months ahead of schedule, so it may be sooner than you think!

Anonymous said...

With you guys...we're ALL in too! Can't wait to share with you and Jake all that God's speaking to us and to hear what's on your hearts...his email to me is simply confirmation that we are on the right track...love you guys SO much!

Tracy said...

update, update, update---- at least a pic! :)))